I really really need some help and guidance in my religion and Interfaith relationship (this is long!)?
ByI am 16. Please do not write me off as unimportant because of my age.
I was raised catholic til i was about 12. When my mom tried to get remarried in the catholic church, they denied her because she didnt want to basically anul her first marriage which gave her 3 children. So we drifted away and eventually resettled in a new church home, a non-denom. christian church. But when my special needs brother was born, he was too sick to bring around other people. he is older now but we just got in the habit of not going to church. I still read my bible and i prayed probably more than people who did go to church, but naturally, christianity started to fade out of my life. But god did not. I pray literally 12 times a day on average and i am so incredibly grateful to god. But im a very deep thinker and got to wondering, what if judgement day comes and i picked the wrong religion? it was then that i realized my faith (not in God but in christianity) wasnt very strong. I cry almost every day because such a big component of my life seemed to be gone. As family life and highschool got harder i thought i had been abandoned. Every day i prayed to God to send me a sign that i was doing right…all i want is to do God’s will. I wanted a sign of which religious path i was supposed to take. i started reading the qur’an, bible AND torah. But i was so confused. I felt homeless, like i belonged nowhere. Then i met my boyfriend. He is the most amazing thing that has ever come into my life. Not in a selfish or lustful respect, but in the fact that he has lead me out of some of the stupidest mistakes i made, taught me to respect myself more, and has made me do better in school, brought me closer to my family and made me want to be an all around better person. Most importantly, he made me want to find God again. This may sound silly but i wonder if, since i had been praying so much for God to show me which way was right, he is a sign of which path i should take. He is muslim and through him i am learning more and more each day about the faith. I already preferred the faith out of the three i’d been studying but now i run into multiple problems. My family loves this guy, accepts him and his faith and supports me in any faith i choose to practise because they believe that faith, virtue and kindness are most important and that all prayer of the 3 religions of abraham goes to the same God. My boyfriends siblings and cousins all know about me, but not his parents. HE is not supposed to date. I feel horrible, and I even dont want to see him sometimes because i know he is lying to his parents when he comes, and it is not my place to interfere with his family or undermine his parent’s authority. I’m a great person and i love God and want to do good more than anyone knows. And after a year i think its safe to say my boyfriend and i truly do love eachother. In not only an emotional but in a spiritual and intellectual sense: we are even starting a charity together. He is my best friend and he makes me feel like im doing something right in my life. I want him and his parents to be happy, that comes far before my happiness. But i have an active imagination and though this probably sounds so ignorant (forgive me if it does) i have heard of honor killings and things like that, and dont want to cause ANY problems let alone any of that magnitude. But i dont want to leave him because i feel like he is leading me closer and closer to the light. I could truly see myself being with him forever and have no intentions of being with anyone else. We are young but we both have a lot of life in our years. I dont think god would do this to me if nothing was ever going to come out of it, and something this great can only come from and be backed by God. I’d like to think he’s on our side. But i dont want to cause conflict. I am leaning towards converting. I want to belong somewhere and devote my life to god. But am i making a mistake? can my boyfriend and i happily be together? please be understanding and non judgemental.
Thankyou so much and God Bless.
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November 19th, 2010 at 8:02 pm
Hi, all age people are important in God’s sight. It is good to search for the truth. It is not easy with so many differences. I have been a Basic Christian for over 40 years and have heard a lot of strange things. I will explain the basic truth. God created perfect in the beginnin. Adam/eve turned from the good loving God and choose to follow the evil(devil) god. This is why there is so much suffering, wars and death. But in the old Testament the loving God promised a Saviour would come. He would be born of a virgin, in bethlehem, of the right family and at the right time. He would do miracles and then be a sinless substitute for all human sin. This is history that Jesus Christ is that promised one. Other historians recorded it. Now I know it really happened I must make a choice. If I accept Jesus as saviour by turning from worldly sinful ways He takes my sin and transfers His righteousness to me as a believer. This is the only way I can be accepted by the Holy God. I am now His child, I have eternal life and I will go to live with Him in heaven forever. This is true Bib le message and is not a denominational teaching. Muslim teaching does not mention Jesus as Saviour only as miracle worker. You cannot be saved by being a muslim or any religion. Jesus said in John 14:6 “I am the way, the truth and the life, no one comes to the father but by me” I have checked this out and have the verses and more explanations I would love to share with you. You are welcome to email me. Here’s how to accept him. If you are seeking the truth read the Gospel of John, The book of Acts and Genesis. To be saved you need to
believe Jesus died on the cross taking the blame and the punishment for your sin and ask Him into your life. Be
willing to turn from sin with His help. Now live for Him by worshipping God, learning of Him in His Word the
Bible and owning Him before others. May God bless you as you seek the TRUTH.
nev
November 19th, 2010 at 8:55 pm
Peace
If your Boyfriend is a Muslim..and teaching you more and more about God.. then how can he lead you astray.. and You being a Christian .. you can still be a Christian..
Remember If you revert .. Revert for yourself.. You are only believing in Christ you are not rejecting Christ and Following his commandments being a Muslim.. Have.. Islam is a Beautiful Religion..not as Media Portrays..
Make your FAITH PURE TO GOD ALONE.. and SEEK his Guidance..
God says in Quran:-
he(Abraham) said: “UNLESS my LORD GUIDES me, I shall SURELY BE AMONG THE PEOPLE who went astray.”
( سورة الأنعام , Al-Anaam, Chapter #6, Verse #77)
November 19th, 2010 at 9:18 pm
I recommend praying the rosary regularly. The Virgin Mary can teach you spiritual truths. Even Muslims believe in praying to her often. See the following promises.
The rosary is explained here:
The fifteen promises of Mary to Christians who recite the rosary:
1. Whoever shall faithfully serve me by the recitation of the Rosary shall receive signal graces.
2. I promise my special protection and the greatest graces to all those who shall recite the Rosary.
3. The Rosary shall be a powerful armor against Hell, it will destroy vice, decrease sin, and defeat heresies.
4. It will cause virtue and good works to flourish; it will obtain for souls the abundant mercy of God; it will withdraw the hearts of men from the love of the world and its vanities and will lift them to the desire of eternal things. Oh, that souls would sanctify themselves by this means.
5. The soul which recommends itself to me by the recitation of the Rosary, shall not perish.
6. Whoever shall recite the Rosary devoutly, applying himself to the consideration of its sacred mysteries, shall never be conquered by misfortune. God will not chastise him in His justice, he shall not perish by an unprovided death; if he be just, he shall remain in the grace of God and become worthy of eternal life.
7. Whoever shall have a true devotion for the Rosary shall not die without the Sacraments of the Church.
8. Those who are faithful to recite the Rosary shall have during their life and at their death the light of God and the plenitude of His graces; at the moment of death, they shall participate in the merits of the saints in Paradise.
9. I shall deliver from Purgatory those who have been devoted to the Rosary.
10. The faithful children of the Rosary shall merit a high degree of glory in Heaven.
11. You shall obtain all you ask of me by the recitation of the Rosary
12. All those who propagate the Holy Rosary shall be aided by me in their necessities.
13. I have obtained from my Divine Son that all the advocates of the Rosary shall have for intercessors the entire Celestial Court during their life and at the hour of death.
14. All who recite the Rosary are my sons, and brothers of my only Son, Jesus Christ.
15. Devotion to my Rosary is a great sign of predestination.
God bless!
Dave
November 19th, 2010 at 9:44 pm
You can have all of the positive things that you mentioned through God and yourself whether it works out with your boyfriend or not. You both need to be honest and trust God to work it out if it is meant to be. You can’t put your trust in any human being because we are all imperfect. We can help each other as he seems to have you; but in the end; we must each deal with our own relationship with God.
November 19th, 2010 at 10:00 pm
there is no god to worry about. if there was, why do you have a special needs brother?
don’t hate – i had a special needs sister.