My wife wants to start wearing heels. What advice do you have (read extra content)?
BySo she’s never wore heels before but she decided that if it was going to improve our s*xual relationship she would be willing to wear heels throughout the day to add to her s*x appeal since it pushes her chest out and her b**t out too.
I (being the dumb male I am) went out and bought her 4 inch heels from Lover’s Lane and gave them to her. She tried wearing the but she’s wobbly since it’s a stiletto. Someone said she just has to try to “break them in” around the house but she’s afraid of falling every time she walks… She complains that it’s like she has to learn how to walk all over again and I’m being supportive but I don’t know what she should be doing…
She just needs to practice and it gets better with each day right? Someone said to not pay attention that she’s wearing heels and if she can do house chores naturally then it would all just fall in place.
What advice would you have? Is there a guide online? What’s the trick to getting used to such a high height? What’s the proper way to walk?
Any help is better than none…
Where do you get T.U.K from? Who sells them?
Maryann that doesn’t answer the question. Women wear heels to and from work and casually all around the world. I think you personally don’t like heels and that’s why you’re not recommending them. Please don’t leave a comment if you don’t have a real answer that solves the problem.
Tumbleweed looks like you have the same issue. This isn’t a place to bash me. The question says it all “MY WIFE WANTS TO START WEARING HEELS”… Isn’t that enough to stop you all from trolling? Hate your husbands and your ex’s some where else.
Thank you sarina, they’re cheap too so I can justify spending more money 
Thank you astro. So you’re saying practice with smaller heels and work your way up. Heel to toe. I heard that before when I asked this on Answerbag… She just flops her foot down when she’s wearing shoes… Aren’t you supposed to extend your leg right before you land your foot too or something like that?
Zayla, what kind of foot damage did you have? Did you like to wear the pointy heels or was it the incline in your foot and the lack of cushion? I know that wearing heels can cause damage but I also know that they wouldn’t be dress code at corporations who pay oodles for health insurance if they were THAT bad.
Aron – big difference between being in love with someone for who they are and being in a 4 year marriage that s*xually needs to be saved but your love is sound… The romance dies after he first year, you run out of ideas to keep the candle burning. Why do you think so many people need counseling? I’m at least trying new things and asking her to try new things too… Back to the damm question though, how does she start wearing them??? Who’s the troll now? The question is about heels and you’re all telling me I need to love my wife. Who’s the troll now?
Annabell and Jade thank you for your input. The idea was actually for in bed use but she said she’d wear them around the house if it helped… So that’s why I bought the 4 inch heels, it was meant as the “goal”… I guess I should’ve worded the question that way. I agree with you both, a smaller heels is needed but how does she get comfortable wearing them? I mean it’s a big jump from flats/sneakers to heels and your center of gravity changes… And as much as you’d like to believe men can’t be trusted, I’m more into fashion than my wife (she’s frumpy and lazy so she has no interest in fashion)… I want her to look s*xy in bed but if wearing heels out of bed will achieve this then I’m all for it.
Thank you elle for the comment. I don’t know why I find heels so s*xy. Platforms aren’t my thing but she does own a 7 inch pair with platforms now (we thought the platforms would help). There’s just something so s*xy about hearing the cl**king of heels walking across tile, I don’t know… Anyways so you’re saying the chores thing… Sounds like it could work with music on… Again, thanks for the comment.
I’m not going to watch this thread any more, thank you for the answers but the official opinion of me and probably others around on this thread is that maryann is a troll and she’s unhappy with her marriage with her husband and needs to get laid.
There’s no reason a woman would go out of her way to make someone who asked a question about high heels have it move on to porn… If your husband watches lots of porn maybe you should give it to him, or find him a hot hooker, that’s all I have to say about that….
Next time I or anyone posts a question, try to answer the question, not troll to prove points, we don’t care about your points…
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October 1st, 2010 at 9:09 pm
So she wants to be s*xy for you and you got her s*xy shoes to wear. Great!
Of course she needs practice. She never wore them before. But the important thing is, both of you want to spice up your lives.
October 1st, 2010 at 10:04 pm
I have to say there are many types of heels, I love high heels, but it is difficult for me to walk in them even after a week in flats I wander around for ten minutes to rebalance myself so to speak, so it takes time to get used to them.
4″ stillettos is like running before you can walk, there are plenty of block heels or smaller stillettos out there and also plenty or types of shoes, ie a strappy stilletto is harded to walk in then a solid shoe which holds your foot in place. I don’t know if there is a proper way to walk but do recognise that my balance goes backwards slightly from my shoulders, obviously or I’d plumet forwards.
practice is the trick until you feel comfortable you’ll look a bit awkward in them, but maybe take her to try some shoes on in a shop there she can find a pair which she can almost walk well in, from there is should be easy to increase the height or decrease the width on the heel.
October 1st, 2010 at 10:32 pm
Wearing heels is an art. They take some getting used to and wearing them while doing the household chores is an excellent way to get comfortable with the new height and the way they make you walk.
Me personally, I wear 4″ + platforms and I feel much more comfortable in heels than flats. When I wear flats, I have a tendency to go too fast, walking into walls, doors, chairs, etc. If I have on my plats, I walk slower and have more grace.( not to mention the way it makes it look like I have some behind!)
Tell her to put on her heels and to listen to her music while she does the chores, it will help her become accomstomed to the different walking patterns. It takes some concentration, but after a while, it will become habit.
Just like anything new, at first, it will seem uncomfortable. The more practice she gets, the more confidence she will gain.
If she is willing to learn and able to devote some time to breaking them in, the added confidence is unexplainable. There is a certain amount of power I feel when I wear my platforms and it is amazing what it will do to boost her ego.
October 1st, 2010 at 11:28 pm
Why don’t you try getting her to start with a shorter heel and when she’s comfortable the have move to a higher heel… you can still find s*xy shoes with a shorter heel.
Good Luck.
October 1st, 2010 at 11:33 pm
I can’t believe I’m actually taking this question seriously & answering it. You better not be a troll LOL!
First of all, you do not start off in 4 inch heels. I can’t believe you went & bought her freaking hooker shoes. Sometimes s*xy can be understated. She doesn’t need to look like a stripper. I personally find that to be hella tacky unless you’re in the bedroom or wearing lingerie. If that’s what she’s wanting to do “chores” in then oops my bad.
Anyway, I wear heels every single day. I wear heels to work, I cook in heels, do laundry in heels, vacuum in heels. That’s just me though. I wear heels with jeans. I’m not saying I run around in a freaky lingerie getup LOL!
She doesn’t need to simply break them in. She actually doesn’t know how to walk in them. To start, she should have heels with a closed back. The toes can be open but her foot needs to be solidly strapped in the shoe. It’s extremely difficult to not only learn how to walk but also how to keep a shoe on your foot at the same time. So that’s rule #1. Also, let her start off with maybe 2″ at most.
What you really need to do IF she actually wants to wear heels, is take her shopping. Guys (obviously) have very little clue about these things & should not be buying heels for us. That leads me to believe that you’re the one wanting it, not her.
October 1st, 2010 at 11:47 pm
first of all did ya realise her that …. she need to do that …….. to improve your s*xual life .
if yes then you are the biggest stupid i have seen in my life … your wife love you so much … and she wanna try evrything for you …..
if you cant do anything then either throw those heel out and say that you love her from your heart and soul and satisfied with ur s*xual life ….
try this
or
ask her to try and hold her hand ……. while she started doing practice …..after few days she will be habitual of that …okkkk …… but if nothing will improve means her b**t and breast …………………..
by holding her hand your relation will definately improve … dont be so mean …….. care her feeling ..she is trying for u i guess not for rest of the world …………… she feel inferiority complex somewhere in her heart ………understand this now else you will loose evrything …….
October 2nd, 2010 at 12:34 am
My advice is to toss the shoes and spare her feet.
I have had surgery on my foot due to high heel damage. A nerve at the ball of my foot became inflamed and had to be removed. My feet have not been the same since.
Any foot doctor can tell you the dangers of nerve, bone, and tissue damage, not to mention injuries caused by falling from tottering on heels.
Heels may look s*xy now, but there is NOTHING s*xy about future damaged feet and incurable limping.
If she insists on wearing heels, then get her something with a low heel (1-2 inch.) This will do less damage than 4 inches but still give her the s*xy walk that high heels give.
Also make sure the shoe has padding at the ball of the foot. If the shoe is not equipped with padding, there are inserts you can buy to cushion the ball of the foot to avoid damage.
But for the sake of your wife’s health, insist that her walk and legs are lovely in the lower heels. Not only will her feet benefit from better care, but it will boost her ego, causing her to walk with more confidence, making practice with the low heels easier.
The foot damage that I had came from the pressure on the balls of my feet since heels caused me to walk on tip-toe and all my weight was on just next to my toes.
The shoes were rather comfortable and rounded at the end so my toes were not squished together, but my feet just couldn’t tolerate heels. Some women do fine in heels but why take the chance?
October 2nd, 2010 at 1:30 am
Maybe she should start out with a shorter heel so that way she can learn to walk in them better with out having the chances of her breaking her ankle. In not go get her a pair of these(http://www.payless.com/Catalog/productdetail.aspx?ItemCode=61663&ProductColor=Red&Width=Regular&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensShoes&BLC=WomensDressSandals) there just as high and she can practice getting her balance in these first and then switch back to high heels
October 2nd, 2010 at 1:59 am
why don’t you stop making your wife uncomfortable, OR try wearing them yourself and take notes.
October 2nd, 2010 at 1:59 am
First of all I would possibly by her a shoe with a small heel, (kinda like a training wheel) so that when she gets more confident with the height and the balancing act, she can try on the 4 inches.
It takes tonnes of practice – she needs to walk slowly thinking about her steps (heel – toe method) then pick up the pace when she has got the basics down pat