Why do I feel so ugly?

I know what this is like.

I go through stages where I feel like this and all I want to do is wander around my house in jeans and an oversized jumper (watch some annoying rom coms, all the good female protagonists go through it at some stage!) okay no im kidding, but seriously i get like this.

and then there are other days when i will put on a dress and walk with my head held high down the street and take all the whistles and comments in my stride and chat up everything that moves just for the hell of it!
it varies. i think at the end of the day it is how you see yourself. you may not be ugly in the least bit, whatever ‘ugly’ is defined as, but if you feel like that it wont matter how incredibly stunning you may look as your mindset is down in the dumps.

distract yourself from your physical appearance. take care of yourself like normal but dont obsess. find a hobby, meet new people (not just the guys that would fornicate with everything that moves) and you will find your self-esteem rising just from making the effort to get out into the real world and realising that looks are not everything. i know it sounds so corny but it is true.
good luck love

By whose standards do you want to be beautiful? Every person has their own perception of what they feel is attractive. Myself as an example, when I see pictures of models I usually think they are way too skinny and vain and I have no attraction for them.
My best friend had his first serious relationship with a girl I thought was a hideous beast. But he was infatuated with her and loved her very much.
So try not to get so caught up with what main stream society thinks is considered attractive. You’re better off looking for someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. I promise you that he is out there. Prepare yourself for a husband, not a boyfriend and don’t settle for less.

alright, this is going to be brutal and honest, and i’m going to sound like an asshole… just throwing it out there

to tell you the complete and honest truth, its sounding like you aren’t very attractive. and yea, friends will tell you that no matter what, especially if they are a girl…

second.. your mom is a complete bitch, and sounds pretty clueless…. she encourages her daughter to get plastic surgery, and gets it on herself. she sounds like some dumb bitch that actually feels accomplished by latching on to a rich male like a leech.

the self esteem. from what i’ve seen, girls who except that they aren’t the greatest looking are usually the ones with higher self esteem. its because they don’t dwell on it… plus who wants to talk to a person who is ugly and is constantly asking if they are attractive.. i know i sound like an asshole but if you ask someone that there is only two options.. and it’s really awkward either way. you can tell them the truth and sound like a total douche, or you can lie to your friend.. really no good options

my friends and i always complain that the pretty girls are never really that interesting.. i mean, the coolest girls we know are ones that we wouldn’t go out with just because they aren’t the greatest looking

but to help your self esteem, i’d just say.. accept the fact that you’re not the prettiest girl on earth and try to be funny, or interesting. people will still like you even if you’re not a supermodel, because you can be a good person

hope that helps, and sorry again for the bluntness

If I were to see your mom, I would slap her across the face for putting her own insecurities onto you. Sorry if it offends you, but a decent mom wouldn’t ever have that kind of thinking of their own child. That’s sick. She clearly has security issues. She says you need a nose job because she knows she did..or at least, she felt so bad about herself that she thought she did.

Your friend probably isn’t lieing. I find my friends to be really pretty.

You’re completely wrong, love does exists. I love all my friends, family, and my boyfriend. They are all family to me, just having their company by me means alot. I have been through so many experiences with all of them, I wouldn’t change any of it.

You probably need a makeover. Trust me, I look MUCH better with makeup, everyone does (if the make up is done right). I have redness around my eyes, along with dark purple under eyes, dark random freckles through my face, and weird eye lids. Growing up I was always teased. All it takes is doing make up the right way, new hairstyle, and to dress right. It’s still you, but you are just you in a better way.

A picture would help alot. I bet you are SUPER pretty and don’t even realize it!

Okay your mother should not tell you all those things. I know that sometimes my mother tries to change me but I try to ignore here when she tells me to do my eyebrows or other little things. I think you should speak to your father about this NOT your mother. If she gets anything done with her body, face she also has a very low self-esteem and she is trying to bring yours down. If YOU think you look nice in that dress wear it! Also do not keep asking your friends if you look pretty because they will get annoy and maybe they do think you do not look pretty because they will think them self as being the most prettiest girl and will not say if you are pretty or not. You are pretty no matter how you look. Who cares about those baster. Just go on with your education and probably go away from home for school (that is what I did). You will find new people and probably will be better off. Good Luck! and you are pretty no matter what (and I am sure you are really pretty you just don’t see it because you are surrounded by selfish people).

So you aren’t among the top five prettiest friends you have but you are friends with some of the top five.
Your Mom is sort of a plastic surgery freak and has tried to intimidate you into her lifestyle but you have the fortitude and intelligence to resist her attempts; realizing that you haven’t finished growing yet and at some point your face may overtake your nose that appears (to your mother at least) to have taken on a growth spurt of it own.
Unfortunately, we do not choose our parents and the fact that she would laugh at you in the dress you were planning to wear without offering a realistic solution (was the dress too big or too small, do you need another style) is a sad reflection of the mental/emotional state and insecurity of this woman. Her reaction was cruel and selfish and if I were you I’d put on the dress and ask my friend for her opinion thereby getting an unbiased opinion of how it looked. If need be I’d buy another dress but I would not allow this woman to prevent my attendance at my friends party.
You’ve got the boy thing right, at your age that may be all there is to most guys but that will change over time. The good ones do catch up at some point and your own emotional development and education should come first at this time.
It is not really necessary to be the most “attractive” girl in school but it can feel important to be “not unattractive”. No one wants to be known as the ugliest kid in school although upon maturity some of those ugliest kids end up as very, very attractive adults.
So we know that you are somewhere in the middle which is where most of the kids are at at this point of their lives. You have the time to develop your character and personality without the interference of being overly popular – that’s good. And you have set some realistic goals for yourself.
Some people are prone to like and wear excessive make-up and that is their choice.
Perhaps your dad could help out here. It sounds like he would love to spend a little private time with you. Spend an afternoon with him, if you can, doing “girlie things”. Ask him to treat you to a make over so you can learn the proper way to use make-up that is age appropriate, and that you’d value his opinion. That’s a real grown up approach that he just might like. To often little girls change into women without any input from Dad and I think most Dads kind of resent not being allowed in for that part of the change, so give him the opportunity to be part of your changes. I am glad he has such a healthy attitude about you even if it is biased (it’s supposed to be). Growing up can be scary and I’m glad your Dad has your back and is on your side.
Your lack of self esteem is not reflected in your writing. I think you may be lacking more in confidence and less in self esteem. You know who you are and the kind of person you want to be. You are overcoming enormous obstacles at home and could be (and will be) very proud and confident in you decisions thus far.
I find you to be absolutely STUNNING and I don’t have to see you to know that this will be reflected in everything you do.

OMG: I just finished this and then saw your pictures. You took my breath away – You Are STUNNING!!! and the little one is cute as a button too.

Aside from a slightly large nose, which I find adds character, you are actually rather pretty. I mean, not OMG SHE’S GORGEOUS pretty, but you’re not ugly at all.
I know what you mean about feeling ugly though. People tell me I’m pretty all the time, but I just feel inferior to everyone.

I can’t answer your actual question because I also suffer from horrible self esteem, but I just wanted to let you know that you’re not ugly.